When most people hear the phrase borderline personality disorder, they have automatic and immediate assumptions about the person being referenced. Oftentimes, these assumptions are wholly untrue and based on rumors and misconceptions. And these misconceptions can be hurtful and problematic for people that do live with borderline personality disorder.

Borderline personality disorder is a mental health disorder characterized by extreme mood swings, identity issues, feelings of emptiness, and more. However, a clinical description can only tell you so much about the disorder. Here are some things people with borderline personality disorder wish you knew.

Borderline Personality Disorder Does Not Mean You Are Evil

Many people immediately think that a person with borderline personality disorder (BPD) are evil somehow. They assume they are heartless and self-centered, basically a psychopath. However, this is not the case at all.

The reality is that most people with BPD are highly empathetic and caring. In fact, part of the problem can be that they are too empathetic. If you are empathetic towards others, it is next to impossible to be evil.

Having Borderline Personality Disorder Does Not Make You Manipulative

There is another assumption out there that people with BPD are extremely manipulative and will do anything to get their way. The problem is that this is based on a misunderstanding of the symptoms of BPD.

When a person is having a BPD episode, they may become extremely emotional. This can mean that they get sad and cry or get angry and scream. They might go silent or might become very loud and dominating in conversation.

A person who is in a BPD episode may also threaten self-harm or suicide or take such actions. These people are not doing any of these things to be manipulative. They are suffering. Their emotions are out of their control. Manipulation is not necessarily a part of BPD at all.

People with Borderline Personality Disorder Can Have Good Relationships

Many people shy away from having relationships with someone when they find out they have BPD. There is a horrible misconception that people with BPD cannot have good or healthy relationships, but people with BPD can have strong connections and relationships just like anybody else.

Borderline Personality Disorder Doesn't Make You Dangerous

Emotional volatility and being dangerous are not the same thing. A person with BPD is not dangerous because of their mental health disorder.

You do not have to fear a person just because you find out they have BPD. You probably already know people with the condition that function normally, have never shown any signs of problems or being dangerous. And, they never will.

Borderline Personality Disorder Can Be Treated

Finally, perhaps the most damaging misconception out there about BPD is that it is a condition that cannot be treated. This is not true. The difference between personality disorders and other mental health disorders is that there are no medications designed specifically to treat the condition as a whole. 

Instead, medications for BPD and other personality disorders address symptoms of the disorder like depression or anxiety. The main treatment for these conditions is therapy, and it is highly effective.

Now that you know just a few of the facts that people with borderline personality disorder wish you knew, you can be sure you are supportive of anyone in your life that has this mental health disorder.

According to Kellie Wong from Business 2 Community in her article, 25 Key Remote Work Statistics for 2020, "Approximately 7 million people were already working from home" before the coronavirus pandemic hit. Since COVID-19, many companies have had to deploy employees to start working from home.

Maybe you've found yourself in such a situation where you now have to work from home. It can be stressful; especially with the additional stress of trying to manage life through this pandemic. Consider the following ways that you can destress while working from home.

Dedicated Workspace

This sounds like such a basic concept, but this is the most important part of destressing while working from home. You need an office that is solely for work and separate from your home life activities. Of course, you may not have a separate room that you can dedicate solely as an office. However, you can take steps to make the workspace separate.

•Room Dividers - Use a portable wall to divide your office space from whatever room you placed your desk in like your bedroom or family room. This can ensure that you have separation between work hours and home life.

•Desktop vs Laptop - Invest in a desktop computer instead of a laptop. Sure, you can have a laptop for personal use. However, if you truly want to create a stress-free work life balance, it's best to have a desk with a desktop computer and monitor so once you step away from the area, you're done with work.

•Work Schedule - Working from home can become complicated, since you may have trouble finding a balance with home life and when you need to work. Decrease your stress levels by making sure you create a clear work schedule and don't deviate from it.  

Comfortable Workspace

Working in a comfortable work area can make your productivity level increase and stress levels decrease. Of course, you don't want to be so comfortable that you zone out and fall asleep. However, you want to be comfortable enough to make it through a long 8-10 hour work day. Take the following steps to make your workspace more comfortable.

•Natural Lighting - If possible, create a workstation that has access to natural light through windows. If that is not an option, use the appropriate task lighting, like a desk lamp to ensure you can work comfortably while writing, reading, or typing.

•Effective Storage - A messy office space decreases productivity. Find the right storage solutions that streamline all the necessary components to help you easily find what you need and work productively.

•Ideal Temperature - Keep the workspace temperature at the optimal degrees to help you feel comfortable throughout the day. If necessary, use a space heater in the winter months or a fan or portable air conditioner in the warmer weather.

•Ergonomic Features - The right desk and chair are so important to improve your comfort level. Some popular ergonomic chair brands are the X-Chair, Steelcase Gesture Chair, Herman Miller Classic Aeron Task Chair, and the Office Factor Executive Ergonomic Office Chair. Ergonomic desks like the ApexDesk Elite Series, Vivo Workstation, or Uplift V2 Adjustable can add to your comfort level by enabling you to have a sitting and standing workstation.

Communication Rules

Make a strict rule for yourself--because this can be easily broken--to keep work communication to set work hours. When you work a regular job outside the home, there are generally clear boundary lines between working time and home time. However, when your office is in your home, the boundary lines can quickly become undefined. This can easily increase your stress levels.

Whether you are a team leader or team member, be vocal whenever you feel that a coworker is crossing those boundary lines and impeding on your home life. You need to keep all work communication on company emails and the company phone line and keep your personal accounts a no work communication zone.

These communication rules apply to your circle of family and friends too. It's important that they know when you'll be working and cannot be disturbed. You won't be productive if people are constantly calling, emailing, and texting you, or knocking on your door. Just because you work from home doesn't mean you can stop what you're doing to go to lunch or take several breaks each day. Setting specific boundaries will definitely help to decrease your stress levels while working from home.

Take Care of Yourself

Since you're working at home, you have easier access to healthy snacks than if you were working in an office. Sure, you could bring healthy snacks to work with you, but working at home makes it easier to walk to the kitchen and make a healthy snack during your afternoon break time. Consider the following healthy snacks as suggested by Healthline.com to power your afternoon:

•Guacamole and Bell Peppers - Avocados are high in monosaturated fats that are effective in maintaining healthy blood cholesterol levels and a healthy heart.

•Roasted Chickpeas - This is a delicious snack that is high in fiber, protein, and vitamins and minerals.

•Apples and Peanut Butter - Apples are a great source of fiber. Peanut butter is a healthy fat and protein that can be a filling snack to help you get through your afternoon.  

Start Destressing Today

Improve the way you balance working from home by following these basic steps to make the daily process less stressful. You can easily make these changes to help you work from home more peacefully and start destressing today.

 It's normal to feel overwhelming stress and anxiety amidst a pandemic. Financial fears mixed with the discomfort of being isolated at home can be crippling, which is why it is important that you take time to manage your stress during this crisis. Do not allow anxiety to take over your life. There are steps you can take to mitigate your daily stress.

Meditation  
Meditation can be a critical tool in managing your stress levels. You don't need to be experienced with meditation in order to reap the benefits. Even a beginner can limit their anxiety immediately by using simple guided meditation. Look up guided meditation online or download an app to your phone. An easy ten minute guided meditation will put you at ease. And thankfully, you can utilize meditation as often as you need throughout the day. You can meditate frequently in order to successfully manage your stress. 

Therapy
Although during a pandemic you may not be able to go see your therapist in person, you can engage in therapy through the phone or video conference. Email your therapist to find out how you can stay in touch during this stressful time. Most therapy offices have already started setting up virtual appointments with their patients. Being isolated at home alone does not mean you cannot get the therapy you need. 

Socialize 
Social distancing doesn't have to mean no socializing. It is vital that you use your time in isolation to reach out to the people you love most. Make phone calls, send text messages, create a group chat with your friends. You will need a support system to manage your stress. Don't be afraid to reach out to your group of friends and vent about what is going on in your life. It's very likely your friends and family are just as stressed out as you. Lean on each other as you and your loved ones navigate this difficult time. 

Exercise
Exercise is key in keeping your stress controlled. If you are sitting at home all day without a physical outlet for your anxiety, your mental health will deteriorate. You may not be able to go to the gym but that doesn't mean you cannot work out. There are many guided exercise videos online. Find an exercise routine that fits your skill level and make it a goal to work out every day. Exercising releases endorphins which keep you happy. Not only will it be easier to control your stress when you're exercising regularly, you will also boost your immune system. It is more important than ever to maintain your physical health.  

You cannot cure your stress, but it is possible to manage it. Make sure that you are taking the necessary steps to lower your stress levels. It is extremely important to manage your stress during the outbreak of a contagious virus as stress can lower your immune response.